Boston Doctors Explain How to Talk to Children About the Texas School Shooting

Stress can bring about stomachaches, headaches and trouble sleeping for young children if they aren't able to process their emotions, experts say

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Boston-based psychologists offered advice for parents on how to talk to children about school shootings after at least 19 children and two teachers were murdered at a school in Uvalde, Texas.

A parent's anxiety can be passed on to children, resulting in a physical response. Clinical Psychologist Dr. Natalie Alexis said parents need to listen to their children, validate their feelings and have an honest conversation.



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"When a child undergoes stress, especially for younger kiddos, they oftentimes don’t have the words to express what they're feeling so they might internalize some of that stress and we know stress has an impact on our bodies," Alexis said.

The news of a shooting at Robb Elementary School in Uvalde, Texas, has left the country reeling.

Stress can bring about stomachaches, headaches and trouble sleeping for young children, according to Alexis, if they aren't able to process their emotions.

Dr. Rachel Merson, the clinical director of the Child Adolescent Fear and Anxiety Treatment program at Boston University, offered advice to parents who are having these difficult conversations with their children at home.

"We don’t, as parents, need to provide lots of details but opening up a channel for conversation through some open ended questions can help kids feel more confident and comfortable," Merson said.

Research shows that in difficult situations, it’s often parents who are more anxious than their children, which is why Merson said it’s vitally important for parents to manage their own emotions.

"It is heartbreaking to think these things keep happening over and over again," Merson said. "Kids will pick up on the fact that adults around them feel uncomfortable and something is unsafe and that will trigger a child’s anxiety more than just seeing something on the news."

Some school districts in Massachusetts increased police patrols Wednesday in an attempt to make their communities feel safer.

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